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Speak life.

10/14/2014

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We're moving on into our series that begins with my look at the phrase Speak Life. 

Speak life. I believe there is power in words, and we can harness that power through the things we say to people to either speak light, joy, and success into their lives, or to speak darkness and defeat. When I think of the meaning of the word life, I think of birth and growth and health. There's a sense of vibrancy and invigoration when you envision something moving forward. Energy.

In order to understand how to speak life, let's first look at the opposite. The opposite of growth and energy is stagnation and death. Negativity erodes and rots as it chokes out the breath of success. It can be expressed in many ways. Body language, facial expressions, inattention, disinterest, etc. But words hold the ultimate power. You'll never, You can't. Move over. You're worthless. I hate you. The expectation in those words is failure, and, really, the best way to assure someone's failure is to expect it from them. 

Life invigorates. It energizes. It expects success. When you speak the words of life into someone's situation, it infuses a sense of positivity that is life changing. Great job. Good work. I trust you. You can handle this. In your hands, it'll be awesome. You rock. You're worthwhile. I value you. What a contrast to the other examples above.

Think back over your own life, how many wonderful things do you remember hearing people say about you and to you? It's hard to remember those things, yet I'll bet there are a few zingers of negativity that dot the landscape of your history. A few hurtful phrases swung at you by hurting people. Those things you can recall on a moment's notice. But it's much easier to believe the negative things about ourselves. It feels more natural to most of us. 

But we do have a responsibility, not only to speak life, but also to receive it. If we can control our minds to reject the lies of death that speak failure over us, and embrace the words of hope and promise and success, we will not only walk through each day more confidently but we will see more success in our lives overall. That's true in business and in all of life. That makes sense, but sounds a lot easier than it actually is. Trust me; I know.

Here's what you need to do: When someone speaks negativity into your life, measure it against these three questions: 

  1. How much of what this person is saying is rooted in their own pain or fear?
  2. How can I reshape those words to offer myself something constructive that can help me grow?
  3. What is the truth about myself?

If it's not constructive, when it's rooted in someone else's struggles, and when it's not your truth (and it seldom is) then discard it like the rubbish it is. Refresh your thinking by spending time with a mentor or pouring yourself into someone you're mentoring. That's where the life is.

You can't control what others say or do. But you can control the words and story that comes out of your mouth, and how you receive words into your life.


PictureToby Mac: Speak Life
What are some ways you can Speak Life to those around you this week? Consider the people you come in contact with each day. Your coworkers, friends, family...those are a given, but what about the UPS guy, the clerk at the grocery store, and even the unhelpful support person on the other end of the phone line? Life feeds on itself and reproduces at warp speed. So give the gift of life through your words and watch how your own life changes in response.

And I'll leave you with this little reminder from our friend Toby Mac: Speak Life Video by Toby Mac




ONWARD!





4 Comments
Sonja (Boles) Moore
10/15/2014 12:39:41 am

Tony - - You are awesome! Keep it coming brother - - our world needs big doses of encouragement!!

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Nan Walvoord link
10/15/2014 12:43:56 am

I needed this today. Thank you so much my friend. Made me see more clearly a conversation I had with a relative about writing our on story. Thanks again. Hugs.

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Charles Russell
10/19/2014 12:07:22 am

Tony you are always motivating and captivating your audience. Thanks for all you do

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Suzanne Mickelson
10/19/2014 01:00:22 pm

Excellent words of not only encouragement but great principles for leaders to embrace! Now that I'm thinking of it, this would fit nicely into orientation classes also. We all need to be reminded that we cant take back what we say. Thank you for sharing!

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    Tony Bridwell is a Partner and Practice Leader for Partners In Leadership with nearly three decades of executive leadership experience. Most recently serving as the Chief People Officer of Brinker International, Tony is a highly recognized thought leader, speaker, and coach in corporate culture, L&D, and human resources, being named 2015 HR Executive of the Year and also receiving the 2015 Strategic Leadership Award .

    A native Oklahoman, Tony, who has three grown children, now resides in Dallas, Texas with his wife, Dee. In addition to being a husband and father, Tony is an active member of his church, where he serves as a Deacon and leadership mentor.

    Tony is the author of two books:
    The Difference Maker: A Simple Fable About Making A Difference In The Life Of Others (August 2013)
    The Kingmaker: A Leadership Story of Integrity and Purpose (June 2016)

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